tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4066379113416874485.post2753617795611924240..comments2024-01-08T23:19:45.188-07:00Comments on Mel's Own Place: Can we chat?Melhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14683211917205104048noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4066379113416874485.post-70138027976569741602009-06-28T17:49:11.970-06:002009-06-28T17:49:11.970-06:00I have done the same thing you have. Simplify! I h...I have done the same thing you have. Simplify! I have come to realize that "stuff" is not what makes me happy. My family and God is what really makes me happy. I love your honesty and understand where you are coming from completely.Carrie P.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10063988589711911820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4066379113416874485.post-37397608877353675002009-06-27T21:47:44.928-06:002009-06-27T21:47:44.928-06:00Mel... I really like you.... you are a wonderful w...Mel... I really like you.... you are a wonderful warm honest person and this is why I am drawn to you in a girly friendship way... clarifying lol!<br />In my experience, which in some ways has been similar to yours...<br />I believe we all go through this...(all of us who are 'real' people and care about others).. in some way or another.<br />It is good to evaluate ourselves and our friendships and everything around us (and sometimes this is sooo hard)... it is healthy and very hard to do if we are honest, but de-cluttering is really worth it for our own well being and self esteem!<br />Thankyou for your wonderful warm honesty and for some useful links to check out.<br />I could really go on and on and on..<br />Keep being you!! You are a wonderful lady.<br />Friendship hugs<br />Robyn xxRGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07678323038280327713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4066379113416874485.post-26004052745092359482009-06-27T09:42:01.801-06:002009-06-27T09:42:01.801-06:00Hey Mel, I lost your email, but I wanted to say TH...Hey Mel, I lost your email, but I wanted to say THANKS! for the gift in the mail! <br /><br />The fabric is totally awesome! I can see finishing a nice wall-hanging x-stitch with the red-colored fabric.<br /><br />Take care, and good luck simplifying. :DPuppy Lovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03794652691138058239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4066379113416874485.post-11351405957375344782009-06-26T18:10:55.819-06:002009-06-26T18:10:55.819-06:00I love this post.
I have been struggling with many...I love this post.<br />I have been struggling with many of the issues that you have written about, and have been in the process of de-junking MY life.<br />It is really hard for me:) <br />(I hoard things emotionally and psysically!) <br />The comment you made about toxic friends really made me think. It hadn't occurred to me that maybe I'm not the problem! (As far as being SO stressed out everytime I'm with them!) Maybe you could point out to me how you eliminated those friends, tactfully? I don't know how to do it! (guess that goes back to what you wrote about living your life for YOU. It is OK to be selfish!)<br /><br />you are so strong.<br /><br />It's baby steps for Kei. This decluttering thing takes me awhile.<br />ie: rent a storage unit, and put all my junk in it....Learn to live without it, and PURGE!<br /><br />I'm going back to read what you wrote again! Thanks for sharing.<br />It helped me.Keiaunihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09857028062279151169noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4066379113416874485.post-12568596131580052912009-06-26T11:59:39.706-06:002009-06-26T11:59:39.706-06:00BTW Love the picture!!BTW Love the picture!!Jane's Fabrics and Quiltshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05317443286432117072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4066379113416874485.post-34488596692931573932009-06-26T11:58:20.399-06:002009-06-26T11:58:20.399-06:00Mel, I came to that a few years ago and let me tel...Mel, I came to that a few years ago and let me tell you I feel so much better! Maybe because I am older and I feel my family will always come first, and I also do not like clutter in my life and my home. thank you for all the links; I will love to check them out. Also, thank you for sharing yourself, it was brave of you, but will help so many. xoxoJane's Fabrics and Quiltshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05317443286432117072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4066379113416874485.post-72360175664398117502009-06-26T11:02:33.441-06:002009-06-26T11:02:33.441-06:00I admire your courage in posting this. I too am a...I admire your courage in posting this. I too am at a stage of life when decluttering is the best thing for me both in my home, mind, and spiritual surroundings. It helps me to focus on what matters most if all the extra "stuff" is out of the way. Good for you for living life your way and doing what works for you. Cindyonlymeherehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08880378084448908090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4066379113416874485.post-74097028964231118582009-06-26T10:12:32.683-06:002009-06-26T10:12:32.683-06:00And if nothing else works....green fingernail poli...And if nothing else works....green fingernail polish ;0)Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00702729004432598037noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4066379113416874485.post-37303050805556462742009-06-26T09:24:25.270-06:002009-06-26T09:24:25.270-06:00Wise words, Mel. I feel the same way. I have had...Wise words, Mel. I feel the same way. I have had experiences with friendships that suck the life out of you and you have to get out for your own sake. And I agree about clutter and simplifying your surroundings. When I have a lot on my plate, I clean my house of its clutter and I feel like I can take on whatever I have going on.Trishahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16611836213499849369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4066379113416874485.post-22579126466623879912009-06-26T09:08:33.805-06:002009-06-26T09:08:33.805-06:00Well said! I totally understand what you mean abo...Well said! I totally understand what you mean about the clutter in your life suffocating you. Cluttered space, cluttered time, cluttered life.<br /><br />Thanks for expressing this so well!zeldahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12729915471250924936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4066379113416874485.post-23117555342559541832009-06-26T08:07:49.387-06:002009-06-26T08:07:49.387-06:00Mel - you put into words so well so much of what I...Mel - you put into words so well so much of what I've experienced and come to realize over these last few years. Thanks for opening yourself up so freely and honestly and it really gives strength to so many others.Amy Rhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11941461947684033252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4066379113416874485.post-85628284441151224222009-06-26T07:24:29.820-06:002009-06-26T07:24:29.820-06:00Thank you for this post.
ChristineThank you for this post.<br /><br />ChristineAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4066379113416874485.post-13233474614780139182009-06-26T05:36:46.977-06:002009-06-26T05:36:46.977-06:00Your post I'm sure will be with me for some ti...Your post I'm sure will be with me for some time, Mel. I've been having many of the same thoughts and realizations but have tended to sweep them under the carpet reather than deal with them.<br /><br />Maybe now's the time.<br /><br />Thanks for being so frank and honest.Kaarenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13378359214056797658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4066379113416874485.post-79641522868625301632009-06-26T04:38:53.730-06:002009-06-26T04:38:53.730-06:00Very good post with some excellent points shared w...Very good post with some excellent points shared with us! Thanks!Pathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03930049919252042391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4066379113416874485.post-56551695582094694232009-06-26T04:00:56.094-06:002009-06-26T04:00:56.094-06:00Thank you so much for sharing Mel! I understand ab...Thank you so much for sharing Mel! I understand about high-maintenance relationships. My husband perseveres with one chap (who really is nice but totally unreliable). I actually have few close friends and that usually doesn't bother me most of the time. I have a lot of friendly acquaintances and it is in my nature to keep people at arm's length (could be why blogging appeals to me a little). However, I think we can get to know each other a little and share ideas and encouragement. And thank you for your list of inspiration - because I do keep people at arm's length I can get a little introspective and meloncholy so I need a bit of a boost to get my act together and keep it real. I do feel affection for you and I know that if we lived near each other we would have a lovely, low-maintenance acquaintanceship with lovely cups of tea/coffee/diet coke and jokes about our husbands and bragging about our children and of course lots of chats about fabric and baskets (which is just incredible that you can make them...). Oops! 6pm and tea isn't finished. How can typing a few words take so long!<br />Hugs - ShariSharihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18308423156191499365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4066379113416874485.post-90109343945472706042009-06-26T01:03:48.655-06:002009-06-26T01:03:48.655-06:00Mel, that is very good advice. I have only a few g...Mel, that is very good advice. I have only a few good friends, but they are good ones, and I try to do now things for myself. I never did that before I retired. I really enjoyed your post!<br />MickiMickihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09075827547379051762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4066379113416874485.post-66033372741253832802009-06-26T00:08:03.283-06:002009-06-26T00:08:03.283-06:00You are so right Mel about the clutter....inside y...You are so right Mel about the clutter....inside your home as well as in your personal life....stressfully toxic friends who just seem to bring out the worst in yourself....Oh....AND the DRAMA QUEENS....I know one of these r-e-a-l well....they can just suck the life out of you!!!<br />I must take heed....see if I can do some de-cluttering...thank you!!!Browndirtcottagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12259939643695340109noreply@blogger.com